I took my first flight when my oldest was only about two months old. It was a quick two-hour hop from New York to Atlanta—the perfect way to ease into flying with a baby. Even though it was short, I learned a lot.
For that first trip, I traveled with my mom instead of my husband. Having that extra set of hands was a total game-changer! Whether you’re flying solo or with a village, here is my best advice for surviving (and actually enjoying) your first time in the air with a little one.
1. Booking the Right Flight: Direct vs. Connections
When you’re flying with kids, the flight you book is your first line of defense against a meltdown.
The “Least Layovers” Rule: I always prioritize direct flights. Less time in the airport means less chance of a missed connection or a luggage mishap while you’re juggling a stroller and a diaper bag.
Timing the Schedule: Some parents try to book around nap times. I’ve personally found that napping on a plane is unpredictable (especially as they get older), so I don’t stress the clock. My criteria are simple: affordability and the fewest stops.
To Buy a Seat or Not?
This is the big question! You can purchase a seat and secure a car seat for safety and extra space. However, I’ve always chosen the “Lap Infant” route. Traveling with a child under two for (nearly) free is one of the best perks of early parenthood, and it makes family travel so much more affordable.
2. The Ultimate Carry-On Packing List
You need to have your essentials at arm’s reach. If it’s in the overhead bin, it might as well be on Mars when a blowout happens!
In my diaper bag, I always have:
Diapers & Wipes: Bring more wipes than you think—then add one more pack.
The “Blowout Kit”: Two extra outfits for the baby and a fresh shirt for you. Trust me, you don’t want to sit in spit-up for three hours.
Feeding Essentials: Bottles, a nursing cover-up, and a breast pump if you’re pumping (note: pumps are medical devices and don’t count toward your bag limit!).
Soothers: At least two pacifiers (they will fall on the floor) and high-interest toys. For us, a simple crinkle book was the winner.
3. Navigating the Airport: Strollers, Car Seats, and Gear
The “inventory of helping hands” is key. If you are flying without a partner, rethink your luggage.
The Hands-Free Strategy: If you’re pushing a stroller, avoid wheeled carry-ons. It is nearly impossible to push and pull at the same time. I prefer a backpack or a shoulder bag.
Checking Gear: Most airlines let you check a car seat and stroller for free, even if you’re only doing carry-on luggage otherwise. I recommend a spacious car seat travel bag; mine has lasted eight years and can even fit two seats!
Baby Wearing: I am a huge fan of “wearing” the baby through the airport. It keeps your hands free for tickets, coffee, or older siblings.
4. Boarding and Seating Strategies
Should You Board Early?
Airlines usually let families board early. Some people suggest waiting so kids can run around longer, but I prefer getting on first—especially if I’m solo. It gives me time to get situated and organize my “station” without feeling like I’m blocking a line of 100 impatient people.
The Best Seat on the Plane
Flying Solo: Take the Aisle. You’ll want easy access to the bathroom for diaper changes or the ability to walk a fussy baby up and down the aisle.
Flying with a Partner: Take the Window. It’s better for “containment,” and you can use suction-cup fidget spinners on the window to keep them entertained.
5. Security and TSA Secrets
Did you know you can bring bottled water, breast milk, and purees over 4oz? You just need to let security know.
Pro Tip: Request that they don’t open containers (like milk boxes) for testing if you want to keep them sealed. This extra screening takes a bit longer, so give yourself an extra 30 minutes at the airport to keep the stress levels low.
6. Takeoff, Landing, and Ear Pressure
The “scariest” part for new parents is usually the ear pop.
Feed During Ascent/Descent: The sucking motion helps ears adjust. Use a bottle, nursing, or a pacifier.
Don’t Wake a Sleeping Baby: If they’re passed out, let them sleep! My kids have never had an issue with ear pressure while napping.
The Carrier Trick: You usually have to take the baby out of a carrier for takeoff/landing, but for the rest of the flight, keep them strapped to you. It’s the easiest way to eat your own snack or watch a movie while they snooze.
You’ve Got This!
You survived your first flight! If the baby cries, don’t sweat it. Most people are kinder than you’d expect.
One final word of advice: When you land, if you don’t see your car seat on the regular luggage carousel, check the oversize baggage area before you panic.
Ready for the next adventure? Check out my guide on Flying with Toddlers or my tips for Mastering International Travel with Multiples!
